Most parents want a positive relationship with their “ex” now co-parent. Mediation is the option to choose when you and your spouse are able to sit down and begin to work through emotional and financial issues with the assistance of a third neutral party. A mediator helps you to facilitate the necessary conversation. A true neutral, a mediator does not provide legal advice. Legal advice comes from the attorney you hire to represent you either before, during or after the mediation process.
Mediators, attorneys or mental health practitioners, provide you with the best opportunity to talk constructively with your spouse to resolve differences. This enables you to separate and divorce, maintaining a working relationship. While people seeking a divorce may need legal advice, they also need someone to help them move through some of the most difficult life decisions they will ever need to make. One challenging decision includes transforming one home into two. Whether or not children are involved, thoughtful consideration needs to be given to deciding how to equitably divide marital assets.
Collaborative Mediation Services will provide the space and opportunity necessary for you to gather your thoughts and carefully consider the options. Generating viable options so you can move in a direction that will be mutually beneficial. We are experienced at listening to multiple perspectives and sorting through information to help clients develop informed options and consider workable solutions. We understand how difficult this type of family transition can be and we are dedicated to constructing an amicable path forward.
Viable Options – Workable Solutions
Together, we will define and clarify the important issues and concerns, explore areas of common agreement, clarify shared values, set goals, and define the steps to get you to your new post-divorce relationship. Where there is disagreement, we will work to understand individual positions and the underlying interests or reasons for those areas of disagreement.
Research shows choosing mediation over litigation had a positive effect on divorcing couples and on their
future post divorce and/or co-parenting relationships.
Mediation is Not Therapy.
During the mediation process, we will work with you and your spouse to calmly discuss obstacles that create conflict. You will learn effective communication and coping techniques so you can manage conflict with a clear head and wise mind. As your mediator or your mediation team, we will assist, and guide you so that you are better able to represent yourself, while making difficult decisions.
Mediation is specifically focused on separation and divorce related issues and concerns. The focus is not about who is right and who is wrong, and not about assigning blame. Instead, mediation focuses on the process of letting go of the past, thinking more flexibly about issues and options, and moving forward towards a durable agreement that everyone can support. A durable agreement will keep either of you from returning to court in an attempt to change a biased settlement.
The New Normal
Family Mediation requires the ability to see and attend to the needs of all of participants including the children. We will have substantive conversations about the needs of each member of the family. This work helps to define the new normal. Our work will encourage the development of workable options for everyone to move forward. Your mediator or collaborative mediation team, will help you change the former narrative or “story of us” into a new cooperative narrative based on the “best interests for all”.