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Category: Life After Divorce

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

A Roller Coaster of Emotions Sad, Mad, and Discouraged 10 Problems with Many Workable Solutions Anyone going through the process of separation and divorce needs to suit up, strap in, and put on a helmet. This is likely going to hurt. How long and how much is up to you. If you have children, may I suggest a Kevlar suit. Please join me for my latest blog series: problems and possible solutions to shared parenting entitled: D.I.V.O.R.C.E. A Roller Coaster of…

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Not Your Parents’ Divorce

Not Your Parents’ Divorce

Relationship advice during separation and divorce. Have you heard this one? A couple comes into my office and says, “We don’t know what we are doing, please help us”.  They want a divorce, but they don’t want to hire lawyers and spend their life savings. They are afraid and need some advice on how best to proceed. I am an experienced mediator of child and family issues.  I am not a lawyer. There are a great many sources of advice…

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The Power of Shame

The Power of Shame

I confess… it has been months since my last… well, since I started this blog. My intention, going forward is to write each month or bi-monthly.  The good news is that I am busy… but, I also need to make time. I need to show up for this important work. Today’s blog post is about something we humans all struggle with. Some more often than others, but no one I know has escaped entirely. I’m talking about: the power of shame. Showing…

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uncoupling 101 – showing up for your divorce better than you did your marriage

uncoupling 101 – showing up for your divorce better than you did your marriage

I said it, uncoupling.  Not sure if it fits but it is one description of the deconstruction, dissolution, or separation of two souls who prior to this, made vows to hang out until the end of time.  Nice of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin to lead the way.  Those of us in the ADR, alternative dispute resolution, field are ecstatic when any celebrity decides to try something different and far from “the War of the Roses”, part deux. Prior to…

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It’s the Relationship

It’s the Relationship

You can be “Right” or you can be in a “Relationship.” PICK ONE….. I didn’t start out thinking I would someday become a specialist in communication and relationships. Yet somehow that is what my family, friends and clients tell me is the best skill I have to offer: the skill of teaching others to imagine, communicate and create what it looks like to relate, connect and understand another human being. In the years I have been living, working and learning, I…

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